怎樣才能讓女孩喜歡你（二）
How do you get a girl to like you?
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網(wǎng)友：當(dāng)我和她坐在一起的時候，她臉紅了。因為她才剛從一段非常糟糕的關(guān)系中走了出來，所以這是我三年來第一次，看到我的朋友容光煥發(fā)。他們是在一次活動中認識的。他是一個聰明絕頂?shù)募一?，對什么事都了如指掌。一開始，他看起來像是一個很愛炫耀的人......
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How do you get a girl to like you?
怎樣才能讓女孩喜歡你？
怎樣才能讓女孩喜歡你？
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I was sitting with her. She was blushing.
She had come out of a really toxic relationship and for the first time in three years, I saw my friend, blooming.
They met at an event. He was the hot shot smarty who knew way too much about everything. At first, he looked like a show-off. He lectured her about life and business. She, on the other hand was just pissed off with him.
Yet, they decided to catch up.
They met at a normal coffee shop and discussed about life, in and out. He was not that bad, she thought.
She said she wanted to pay. He stopped her by saying, she should when they catch up the next time.
They met again. This time he dropped her home.
當(dāng)我和她坐在一起的時候，她臉紅了。
因為她才剛從一段非常糟糕的關(guān)系中走了出來，所以這是我三年來第一次，看到我的朋友容光煥發(fā)。
他們是在一次活動中認識的。他是一個聰明絕頂?shù)募一铮瑢κ裁词露剂巳缰刚?。一開始，他看起來像是一個很愛炫耀的人。他告訴了她很多關(guān)于生活和事業(yè)方面的知識。其實她并不想分手，她只是生他的氣。
所以，他們還是決定再見一面敘敘舊。
他們約在一家普通的咖啡店見面，他們探討了生活中的方方面面。她心里想著，其實他并沒有那么壞。她原本想著這次她來買單的。但他攔住了她，跟她說，等下次再見面的時候就讓她付款。
他們又見面了。這一次，他把她送回了家。
He still met her. Talked to her. Messaged her.
They met again and he confessed his love.
He did everything to make her smile. Picked her up in the morning (their offices were near by). Dropped her home. Helped her to sort her life, lifted her mood, held her hand, nourished her soul, heard her crying, took her out, stayed with her through thick and thin.
And then, she fell for him.
Noticing this, this man did not think he won. He thought it was his responsibility to put in more efforts.
He did everything to make her smile. Picked her up in the morning (their offices were near by). Dropped her home. Helped her to sort her life, lifted her mood, held her hand, nourished her soul, heard her crying, took her out, stayed with her through thick and thin.
Coming to her.
后來他又去找她了，但這一次她叫他離她遠點。因為她不想在她的生活中再出現(xiàn)任何的愛情劇。(但其實他并沒有騷擾她，而是在繼續(xù)努力追求她）
后來，他還是遇見了她。并和她談了一會，還給她發(fā)了信息。
最后，他們又見面了，這一次他承認了他對她的愛。
他所做的一切都是為了讓她笑。他早上會去接她上班（他們的辦公室就在附近），下班了把她送回家，幫她處理生活中的瑣事，讓她開心。在她身邊陪伴著她，握住她的手，滋養(yǎng)她的靈魂，傾聽她的哭訴，帶她出去玩，陪伴她度過一個又一個難關(guān)。
最后，她愛上了他。
但這個男的并不認為自己贏了。他認為自己有責(zé)任付出更多的努力讓她開心。
他來到她的身邊陪著她。
She took care of him. She got scared when he was ill. She made sure he was okay. She helped him with business, she made sure he starts to live and not just run. She lifted his mood. Looked at him as magic and worked hard to stick with him.
It has been 3 years since then and I have never seen a happier couple.
The simplest way to get a girl/boy is learning how to keep them. Don't treat people like trophies before getting them and shit after getting them.
Make sure when you like someone, you appreciate them in every manner. You celebrate their presence. And then, they will eventually mask off. They will fall for you.
Consistent efforts are romantic.
她就是一顆寶石，她知道每個人都想要被別人欣賞。
但同時她也在照顧著他，當(dāng)他生病的時候，她很害怕他會出事，所以一直在他身邊照顧他，直到確定他沒事了。她幫他一起做生意，幫他重振旗鼓，確保他能重新開始，而不是逃避問題。她努力逗他開心，努力地和他在一起。
3年過去了，我從未見過比他們更幸福的一對了。
所以讓一個女孩或男孩喜歡你，最簡單的方法就是要學(xué)會如何留住他們。不要在追他們的時候把他們當(dāng)作戰(zhàn)利品，在得到他們之后就不再珍惜他們了。
當(dāng)你喜歡上一個人的時候，你一定會以各種方式欣賞他。你會慶幸他們的出現(xiàn)，努力追求他們。最后，他們終會摘下面具，愛上你。
始終如一的努力追求愛是很浪漫的一件事。
For starters, you need to ask a different question.
The question “How do you get a girl to like you” is coming from a place of scarcity.
You don’t have the women you want in your life and so you feel like you NEED girls to like you.
This attitude will sabotage you at every turn and ensure that you NEVER get to be with the women you truly like.
Besides… You aren’t attracted to EVERY woman.
And the same things that some women will find attractive, other women will find repulsive.
So, instead, ask yourself the question, “How can I find and attract girl that I like who fulfills the needs I have in my relationships”
When you ask this question, you will enter into all encounters with an attitude of “I hope I like her” instead of “I hope she likes me” and this is a subtle but powerful shift that will dramatically change the way you date forever.
Anyways…
With that little rant out of the way, here are some more actionable steps you can take to attract the women you desire into your life.
首先，你需要問一個不同的問題。
”怎樣才能讓女孩喜歡你“這個問題來自一個沒有愛的地方。
你的生活中沒有你想要的女人，所以你覺得你需要女孩喜歡你。
這種態(tài)度會讓你處處受挫，讓你永遠無法和你真正喜歡的女人在一起。
再說了，并不是每個女人都會吸引你的。
同樣的事情有些女人會覺得很有吸引力，但有些女人會覺得很惡心。
所以，相反地，你要問你自己這樣一個問題，”我怎樣才能找到并吸引那些能滿足我在人際關(guān)系中需要的女孩呢？“
當(dāng)你問這個問題時，你的態(tài)度就會變成”我希望我喜歡她“，而不是“我希望她喜歡我”，這是一個微妙而有力的轉(zhuǎn)變，將徹底改變你約會的方式。
不管怎么說，除了剛剛那些小小的抱怨外，這里還有一些更加可行的步驟，你可以采取一些措施來吸引你心儀的女人進入你的生活。
The first step to attracting the women you desire is to be on YOUR path.
What do I mean by this?
Women are attracted to men of purpose. Men who have a mission in life and are making something of themselves. (the right women are at least).
Women don’t want a man whose entire mission in life is to make her happy.
They want a man who has goals of his own and is creating an epic life that she gets to be a part of.
So how can you be more attractive to women?
By being on your own path and creating an amazing life.
If you’re currently doing the same things that every other man out there is doing, you’ll get the same results (namely, a few shameful hookups without any real connection or settling for a relationship you don’t really want to be in).
However, if you dominate your path, set and achieve ambitious goals and turn your life into an adventure? The right women will enter into your life and find you irresistibly attractive.
This doesn’t mean you have to be the next Steve Jobs or Bill Gates.
All I mean is that you need to have goals.
You need to have hobbies, skills, and activities that most men don’t try (e.g. music, art, dance, reading, bow hunting, blogging, travel etc.)
Become more interesting by doing more interesting things.
Create a life that is fun and adventurous and the right women will naturally come into your life.
走好你自己的路：
吸引你心儀女性的第一步就是堅定的走好你自己的路。
我想表達的是什么意思呢？
就是女人會被有目標(biāo)的男人所吸引。就是那些在生活中有目標(biāo)，并且正在努力實現(xiàn)自己目標(biāo)的男人（至少對的那個女性會這么想）。
女人想要的不是一個整天只會逗自己笑的男人。
她們想要的是一個有自己目標(biāo)的男人，他能創(chuàng)造史詩般的生活，而她也能成為其中的一部分。
那么怎樣才能讓自己對女性產(chǎn)生更大的吸引力呢？
首先你要做的就是走好自己的路，努力創(chuàng)造屬于你自己的精彩人生。
如果你現(xiàn)在和其他男人做的事情是一樣的，那么你得到的結(jié)果自然也是一樣的（結(jié)果就是一些沒有任何意義的無聊的勾搭，或者是一段你并不是真正想要的關(guān)系）。
但如果由你主宰你人生的路，何不給自己設(shè)定一個壯志勃勃的目標(biāo)，并努力實現(xiàn)這個目標(biāo)，將你自己的生活變成一場大冒險呢？到那個時候，自然會有合適的女人進入你的生活，并發(fā)現(xiàn)你所具有的不可抗拒的魅力。
這并不意味著您必須要成為下一個史蒂夫·喬布斯或比爾·蓋茨。
我的意思是你需要有目標(biāo)。
你需要有大多數(shù)男人不會去嘗試的愛好、技能和活動（例如音樂、藝術(shù)、舞蹈、閱讀、弓箭狩獵、博客、旅行等等）。
你可以通過做很多有趣的事情讓你的生活變得更加有趣。
你可以讓你的生活充滿樂趣和冒險，到那時候，適合你的女性自然會進入你的生活。
While the first step to being a more attractive man is to have a mission and purpose, do interesting things, and create a life of adventure, this isn’t enough.
If it was, you wouldn’t see so many millionaires and business moguls attending dating bootcamps and hiring relationships coaches.
To successfully attract and keep the women you desire, you must understand evolutionary psychology, the dynamics of dating, and status.
While I could write an entire novel on this subject (and actually have), I’ll try and condense it down here as much as I can.
Maintain strong eye contact
Ask more questions and spend less time talking
Keep good posture
Dress well and take care of your body (more on that in a minute)
Playfully touch the women you’re attracted to during conversation (on the arm, shoulder, or hand)
Embrace the friend zone (women want to be with men who have other beautiful women in their life)
Create an epic social circle (this builds status and perceived value)
Speak with deep vocal tonality
Develop your sense of humor (watch more comedies and stand ups)
Build scarcity (leave parties early, wait to respond to messages, don’t be too available)
Like I said, this is a HUGE topic and many successful entrepreneurs have built 7 or 8 figure empires JUST talking about the nuances of these subjects.
But the above bullet list should be enough to get you started.
For further education, I’d recommend reading my book The Dating Playbook for Men, Mate by Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller, Models by Mark Manson, and The Game by Neil Strauss.
了解約會、地位和進化心理學(xué)的相關(guān)知識：
雖然成為一個更有吸引力的男人的第一步是有一個明確的使命和目標(biāo)，是去做有趣的事情，是去創(chuàng)造一種冒險的生活，但只有這些還不夠。
如果靠這些就能成功的話，你就不會看到有那么多的百萬富翁和商界大亨去參加相親訓(xùn)練營，去聘請教練來教他們戀愛了。
所以，為了成功地吸引和留住你想要的女人，您必須了解進化心理學(xué)、約會動力學(xué)以及地位的相關(guān)知識。
雖然我可以就這個主題寫一部完整的小說（事實上我已經(jīng)寫了），但我還是盡可能地把它濃縮成幾句話說。
首先你要保持強烈的眼神交流，多問問題，少說話。
其次保持良好的姿勢，穿著得體，并確保擁有一個好身體（關(guān)于這一點，稍后會詳細介紹）。
在交談中，你可以開玩笑地觸碰一下你所喜歡女人的手臂、肩膀或手。
要有屬于自己的朋友圈（因為女人喜歡和生活中有其他漂亮女人的男人在一起）。
創(chuàng)建一個宏大的社交圈（這可以建立地位和感知價值）。
然后你可以用低沉的聲調(diào)說話，增強你的幽默感（你可以多看看喜劇和脫口秀）。
然后你還可以加強你自己的存在感，比如你可以提前離開派對，等她回復(fù)消息，但不要顯得你自己太閑了。
就像我說的，這是一個非常巨大的話題，許多成功的企業(yè)家僅僅靠著談?wù)撨@些話題的細微差別，就已經(jīng)賺了7位到8位數(shù)了。
但是上面列出的幾條建議應(yīng)該足以讓您入門了。
為了進一步深造，我推薦你可以閱讀這些書：塔克 · 馬克斯的《男人的約會手冊》和杰弗里 · 米勒的《伴侶》，以及馬克 · 曼森的《模特》和尼爾 · 施特勞斯的《游戲》。
As much as people want to tell you that looks don’t matter… They do.
Sure, there are plenty of unnatractive dudes who still date models. But it’s much harder for these men to succeed in the dating game than it is for good looking guys.
That’s just the truth.
Luckily, your appearance IS something you can improve.
The first, and most important step is to get into amazing shape.
The lower your body fat, the more chiseled your face will appear and the better your body will look.
I’d recommend getting down to 8–9% body fat if possible (with some solid muscle and definition).
Furthermore, by following an intelligent skin and dental regimen you can maximize your looks and ensure that you appear healthy and youthful well into your 30’s and 40’s.
With the physical aspects taken care of, you’ll want to develop better style.
This doesn’t mean that you need to wear a suit or buy a bunch of clothes that are’t congruent with who you are.
Instead, just make sure that the clothes you buy fit exceptionally well, are wrinkle free, and have a color contrasting with your skin tone.
Add cool accessories like tattoos, bracelets, watches, and other interesting things to accelerate your style.
Once you’ve done these things, you’re set.
If you present yourself well to the world and are on your mission, women will naturally respond.
Take pride in your appearance and put your best foot forward. It will make a world of difference.
提高你的形象：
盡管人們想告訴你外表并不重要，但他們卻很看重外表。
當(dāng)然，仍然有很多長得不帥的人在與模特約會。但是，對于這些男人來說，要想在約會中獲得成功要比帥哥難得多。
這就是事實。
幸運的是，你的外表是可以改善的。
第一步，也是最重要的一步，就是塑造一個完美的體型。
你的體脂越低，你的臉就越有輪廓，你的身材看起來就越好。
如果可能的話，我建議你將體脂降低到 8%-9%（讓你的身體有一些堅實的肌肉）。
此外，你可以通過遵循皮膚和牙科的治療方案，最大限度地提高您的容貌，并確保您在30多歲和 40多歲的時候還能看起來很年輕，很健康。
身材方面的問題都解決了，你就需要考慮穿搭了。
這并不意味著你需要穿西裝或買一大堆和你格格不入的衣服。
相反，只需要確保您購買的衣服非常合身，沒有褶皺，并且顏色與您的膚色形成鮮明對比就可以了。
你還可以佩戴一些酷炫的配飾，如紋身、手鐲、手表和其他有趣的東西，以突出您的風(fēng)格。
一旦你做完了這些事情，就說明你已經(jīng)準(zhǔn)備好了。
如果你向這個世界很好的展示了自己，并且堅持做好自己的事，那么女性自然會對你做出回應(yīng)。
你要對自己的外表感到自豪，并以最好的姿態(tài)示人。這將使世界變得不同。
Women are attracted to honest men.
Period.
And there are few things that attract a woman more than a man who unapologetically speaks his truth ESPECIALLY when he knows that she won’t like it.
I know plenty of guys who are afraid to disagree with women or make comments they may find offensive.
Screw that!
Some of the most amazing encounters I ever had actually happened because I was the only guy who was willing to call a girl out on an opinion she had and challenge her.
It builds tension and increases her respect for you.
Don’t be afraid to speak your truth and be honest.
Even if a woman disagrees with you, she’ll respect you for being man enough to step up and be honest.
說出你的真實想法：
女人會被誠實的男人所吸引。
沒有什么比一個勇于說出自己真實想法的男人更能吸引女人的了，特別是當(dāng)他知道這個女人不喜歡他的時候。
我知道有很多男人害怕與女性意見不一致，害怕發(fā)表的言論可能會讓她們反感，從而不敢說出自己的真實想法。
千萬不要這么想！
在我所遇到過的最令人驚奇的事情中，我是唯一一個愿意對一個女孩的觀點提出異議并挑戰(zhàn)她的人。
這并沒有讓這個女性開始對我反感，相反，它營造了一種緊張的氛圍，反而增加了她對我的尊重。
不要害怕說出你的真實想法，要誠實。
即使一個女人不同意你的觀點，她也會尊重你，因為你是一個足夠勇敢和誠實的男人。
Plain and simple.
Getting better at the dating game requires practice and a willingness to fail.
You are GOING to get rejected.
You are GOING to be broken up with.
You are GOING to look like a fool and feel like an idiot.
It’s ok.
If you learn from your mistakes and continue to get better, you WILL succeed and find the woman of your dreams.
練習(xí)，練習(xí)，再練習(xí)：
做事情要干凈利落。
要想在約會中表現(xiàn)得更好，你就需要不斷的練習(xí)以及不害怕失敗。
你可能會被拒絕。
你可能會被甩。
你可能會看起來像個傻瓜，你可能會感覺自己像個白癡。
但是沒關(guān)系。
只要你從錯誤中吸取了教訓(xùn)并繼續(xù)變得更好，你就會成功，總有一天你會找到你夢寐以求的女人。
Imagine the type of girl that you want to be with. Imagine your dream girl. Don’t picture what she looks like, picture what she’s like on the inside.
What are her goals?
Is education important to her?
Is a family important to her?
Is a career important to her?
When does she want to settle down? Does she want to settle down?
Does she want kids? How many?
Does she want a nice house in the suburbs?
Does she want a little beach bungalow?
Does she want an upscale flat in the center of downtown?
Does she dream of varied experiences and travel and adventure?
Does she dream of wealth and luxury and the finer things?
想象一下你想和什么樣的女孩在一起。想象一下你的夢中情人。但不要只想象她的樣子，要想象她的內(nèi)在。
她的目標(biāo)是什么？
學(xué)歷對她重要嗎？
家庭對她重要嗎？
事業(yè)對她重要嗎？
她想什么時候安定下來？她想安定下來嗎？
她想要孩子嗎？想要幾個？
她想要郊區(qū)的好房子嗎？
她想要一間海濱小屋嗎？
她想要一套市中心的高檔公寓嗎？
她是否夢想著有各種各樣的經(jīng)歷、旅行和冒險？
她是否想要財富、奢侈和更美好的事物？
Does she dream of closeness and togetherness, and holidays spent with all the extended family, and a home filled with friends, family, and laughter.
What are her values?
Is she more old fashioned, or more modern?
Is she more liberal or more conservative?
Does she value honesty and integrity?
Does she value hard work and self reliance?
Does she value individual thought and uniqueness, or does she place a preference on conformity and fitting in?
Does she value openness and expressing feelings, or does she feel that people she remain reserved and hold back certain things out of politeness?
Is she politically active?
Is she religiously active?
How does she treat people who are socially inferior?
How important are good manners to her?
她是否夢想著過一種安全而有保障的平靜生活，盡可能的不出意外？
她是否夢想著擁有一個充滿朋友、家人和歡聲笑語的家，是否夢想著和整個大家庭團聚在一起，親密無間的度過一個美好的假期？
她的價值觀是什么？
她是老式思想，還是現(xiàn)代思想？
她是更開明還是更保守？
她重視誠實和正直嗎？
她重視努力工作和自力更生嗎？
她是更看重個人的思想和獨特性，還是偏向于從眾和合群？
她是更看重坦誠以及踴躍的表達自己的感情，還是覺得出于禮貌，對人有所保留？
她在政治上活躍嗎？
她信仰宗教嗎？
她如何對待社會地位低下的人？
禮貌對她來說有多重要？
What is her lifestyle?
Is she up for lots of travel? Does she crave adventure?
Is she a hard worker?
Does she take risks or is she risk adverse?
Does she enjoy a good philosophical discussion? Or is she more concerned with practical things?
Is she the type of person who needs to be taken care of? Is she the type of person who takes care of others?
Is she a member of a particular religion?
Does she have pets or want to have pets?
Is health and fitness important to her? Is that a big part of her lifestyle?
Is she a vegetarian? Does she bake cookies?
她是否因為一些行為不道德而不去做？ （比如婚前性行為、飲酒、吸毒、賭博、吃肉、紋身、詛咒、擁有槍支等）
她的生活方式是什么？
她準(zhǔn)備經(jīng)常旅行嗎？她渴望冒險嗎？
她是一個勤奮的人嗎？
她是愿意冒險還是不愿意冒險？
她喜歡進行良好的哲學(xué)討論嗎？還是她更關(guān)心實際的東西？
她是那種需要被照顧的人嗎？她是那種會照顧別人的人嗎？
她是某個特定宗教的成員嗎？
她有寵物還是想養(yǎng)寵物？
健康和健身對她重要嗎？這是她生活的重要組成部分嗎？
她是素食主義者嗎？她會烤餅干嗎？
What aspects are most important to you? What would you be willing to give up? What are you willing to compromise on as long as everything else is met?
Maybe you’re hoping that your future partner is a good cook, is that something you want, or is that something you need?
Maybe you’re hoping that your future partner is very clean and tidy, is that something you want, or is that something you need?
Maybe you’re hoping that your future partner is ok with a polyamorous lifestyle, is that something you want, or is that something you need?
她喜歡去 BDSM 性愛俱樂部嗎？她是否認為僅僅想到這樣的事情就已經(jīng)令人作嘔了嗎？
哪些方面對您來說是最重要的？你愿意放棄什么？只要滿足了其他一切條件，你愿意妥協(xié)什么？
也許你希望你未來的伴侶是個好廚師，這是你想要的，還是你需要的？
也許你希望你未來的伴侶非常干凈整潔，這是你想要的，還是你需要的？
也許你希望你未來的伴侶能接受多角戀的生活方式，這是你想要的，還是你需要的？
Once you’ve really gotten an idea of what your dream women is like, and you’ve uated what is important to you, what things you need, and what you’re ok with compromising on, it’s time to go and find her.
Think about where such a woman would be. If education is important to her, she’ll likely be at a university or some other place of learning. If she’s up for fun and adventure, then go on fun adventures and try to meet fellow adventurers. If she’s ad avid church-goer than attend churches and bible studies and try to meet people that way, or ask them to introduce you to a friend. Think about your dream girl and where she can be found. Then go there and make friends and meet people. Hopefully you’ll find her there.
It’s not enough to just find your dream girl, you also have to win her over. Think about the type of girl that you want to be with. What is important to her? Does she value honesty and integrity? Does she want an adventurous guy or one with a stable and steady job? If you’re looking for a future housewife, then she’s going to want a man who can support her and their future children. If you’re looking for a career woman, then she’s going to want someone who will be a supportive partner. Be the kind of man that your dream girl would want. Don’t lie, don’t pretend. Be yourself, but be the best version of yourself that you can. If you need to improve your communication skills, then do that. If you need to organize your life a little, then do that. If you need to build up your confidence, do it. But don’t wait until you’re perfect. You’ll never be perfect. And if the girl that you’re dreaming of, wants you to change who you are fundamentally in order to be with her, then it’s not the right girl for you. You shouldn’t need to change who you are in order to be with someone.
不要太在意表面的東西。盡量避免過多的考慮她的外表，盡管你希望她是一個在身體上能吸引你的人。另外，不要太擔(dān)心有沒有相似的興趣愛好。如果你們有一些共同點和一些共同的愛好，這當(dāng)然很好，但是你們是否有共同的生活方式、價值觀和目標(biāo)，這比在電影和音樂上有共同的品味更重要。
一旦你真正了解了你的夢中情人是什么樣的人，并且你已經(jīng)評估了對你來說什么是重要的，明白了你需要什么，以及你可以妥協(xié)什么，那這個時候你就可以去找她了。
你可以好好想想這樣的女人會在哪里。如果教育對她很重要，那她很可能會在大學(xué)或其他地方學(xué)習(xí)。如果她喜歡玩樂和冒險，那就去好玩的地方找她，并試著認識一些其他的冒險家。如果她熱衷于去教堂，那就試著通過這種方式去認識別人，或者讓他們給你介紹一個朋友。想想你的夢中情人以及在哪里可以找到她。然后就去那里結(jié)交朋友，認識新朋友。希望你能在那里找到她。
僅僅找到你的夢中情人是不夠的，你還必須贏得她的芳心。想想你想和什么樣的女孩在一起。什么對她來說是重要的？她看重誠實和正直嗎？她想要一個喜歡冒險的男人還是一個有穩(wěn)定工作的男人？如果你想找的是一個未來的家庭主婦，那么她會想找一個能養(yǎng)活她和他們未來孩子的男人。如果你想找一個職業(yè)女性，那么她會想要一個可以支持她的伴侶。所以你要成為你夢中情人想要的那種男人。不要說謊，不要假裝你就是那種人。做你自己，但盡可能做最好的自己。如果你需要提高你的溝通技巧，那就去做吧。如果你需要好好的安排一下你的生活，那就去做吧。如果你需要建立你的自信心，那就去做吧。但不要等到你變得完美才開始做，你永遠都不會完美。如果你夢寐以求的那個女孩，想要你為了和她在一起，而改變你自己，那么這個女孩就不適合你。你不應(yīng)該為了和某個人在一起就改變你自己。