怎樣才能讓女孩喜歡你（一）
How do you get a girl to like you?
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網(wǎng)友：有時候我發(fā)揮了我所有的魅力，也做了所有我能想到的浪漫舉動，但收效甚微，她依然不喜歡我。有時候我什么都沒做，也沒付出過任何努力，但無論我說什么或做什么，她都死心塌地的愛著我，就好像我給她施了什么魔法一樣......
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How do you get a girl to like you?
怎樣才能讓女孩喜歡你？
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I’ve thrown every ounce of charm, pulled out every morsel of romantic magic at my disposal, only to get minimal response.
I’ve done nothing, put zero effort, and still felt like I’d cast some spell on a girl, that nothing I could say or do would change her hanging on my every word.
The point is that a girl “l(fā)iking you” is a natural thing that is not usually controllable by you or her.
But in order for her to even figure out if she likes you, you need to actually be talking to her. That is the step 90% of people who ask this question skip.
The great tragedy is that most crushes go unknown by the crushee. It is often because the person doing the crushing has put too much pressure on themselves.
Just go and start talking with her. Keep things light and simple. It doesn’t need to be this high-pressure mission to lock her in for a date before she even knows your full name.
If you keep having conversations with her, she’ll catch on that you like her. Girls are pretty good at reading between the lines.
Skip all the schtick, shenanigans, tap dancing, presenting of flowers, life sized teddy bears, gold, diamonds, the performance of poetry on her doorstep, painting of hearts in the clouds with an airplane.
Stop observing her from a distance as an obxt to be acquired. You aren’t a hawk. You are a person just like her. Just go and start having regular dialogue, get to know her.
It’s that simple. If she likes you, she’ll let you know.
有時候我發(fā)揮了我所有的魅力，也做了所有我能想到的浪漫舉動，但收效甚微，她依然不喜歡我。
有時候我什么都沒做，也沒付出過任何努力，但無論我說什么或做什么，她都死心塌地的愛著我，就好像我給她施了什么魔法一樣。
所以這件事的關(guān)鍵是，一個女孩“喜歡你”是一件自然而然的事情，這不是你或她能控制的了的。
但有時候她自己都不知道喜不喜歡你，所以如果你想讓她明白自己的心意的話，你需要和她認(rèn)真的進(jìn)行溝通。但有90%的人跳過了這個步驟，直接問對方喜歡不喜歡自己。
所以這件事最大的悲劇就是，大多數(shù)的被暗戀者都不知道她被誰暗戀了。這往往是因?yàn)榘祽俚娜私o自己施加了太多的壓力。
所以，勇敢的去和她搭訕吧，把事情變得輕松簡單一點(diǎn)。在她甚至還不知道你名字的情況下，就鎖定她，把她拉入和你曖昧的氛圍中。
如果你一直找她說話的話，她會知道你喜歡她的。女孩子們都很擅長讀懂言外之意。
你要跳過所有的滑稽表演，比如玩一些小把戲，跳踢踏舞，送花，送真人大小的泰迪熊，送黃金、鉆石，在她的門階上表演詩歌，用一架飛機(jī)在云中畫心等等。
你不要一直在遠(yuǎn)處觀望她，你又不是老鷹，你和她是一樣的。所以勇敢的去和她聊天，去了解她。
如果她喜歡你，她會告訴你的。就是這么簡單。
My best friend liked a girl.
As per his belief she was way out of his league.
But then he decided to convince her and made a plan for that.
He started giving her importance.
Solved her issues proactively.
Finally became friends with her.
Treated her like a princess.
Was available 24x7 for her needs.
Learned some amazing jokes and made her laugh.
Complimented her every other day and made her feel special.
Pampered her more than her parents would have done.
Took her to long rides and dinner dates.
Cooked food for her.
Made her an addict of himself.
Did all this patiently for at least a year.
Finally said the three magic words on the last day of college
“I love you”
我最好的朋友喜歡一個女孩。
但在他看來，他根本配不上她。
但他最終還是下定決心要去追她，并為此制定了一個計(jì)劃。
他開始關(guān)注她。
主動幫她解決問題。
后來，他終于和她成為了朋友。
他像對待公主一樣的對待她。
隨時隨地的滿足她的需求。
每天還想很多的笑話說給她聽，逗她笑。
每隔一天贊美她一次，讓她覺得自己很特別。
他比她父母還要溺愛她。
他會帶她去兜風(fēng)，邀請她共進(jìn)晚餐。
還給她做飯。
他讓她對自己上癮。
他耐心地做了這些事，做了至少一年。
終于在大學(xué)的最后一天，他說出了那三個神奇的字：”我愛你“。
“I love you too Bhai (brother), I don't know how I will live without you, what you have done for me even my parents haven't done ever, Thank you so so much”
Also gave him a tight hug which lost relevance by then and said-
“Always stay in touch!”
His Mount Everest made of expectations was brought down to a temporary “touch”
For the next 1 year he cried for the previous year he wasted on her.
Nothing unique! This is what most of us actually do and then cry in one corner of a library or on stairs of our college or school.
So how to go about?
Be what you are and be confident in your skin.
Be honest, be truthful but don't create a negative aura by body shaming her or doing other negative things.
Whatever little efforts you need to make, should be to create a casual friendship.
她哭了幾秒鐘，然后說：”我也愛你，哥哥，如果沒有你我都不知道該怎么活下去，你為我做了連我父母都沒有做過的事情，真的很謝謝你。”
那個女孩最后緊緊地?fù)肀Я怂幌?，只說了句：”隨時保持聯(lián)系！“
他原本是期望能登上珠穆朗瑪峰的，但他最后只得到了一個暫時的”碰觸“。
所以在接下來的一年里，他為他在她身上浪費(fèi)的一年時間而哭泣。
這不是什么特別的事情！我們大多數(shù)人都會這么做，我們最后會躲在圖書館的某個角落或?qū)W校的樓梯上哭泣。
那我們到底該怎么做呢？
你只需要做你自己，對你自己充滿信心就好了。
一定要誠實(shí)，要保持真誠，但不要通過羞辱她或做一些負(fù)面的事情來制造消極的氣氛。
無論你打算對她采取什么樣的行動，你都應(yīng)該在你和她之間創(chuàng)造出一種輕松的友誼的氛圍。
Respect her aims, goals, obxtives, way of life and limitations.
If she has to like you she will, if she doesn't have to like you, she won't, no matter what.
If you fake and make her like you, I am sorry you are destined to cry later on.
If you like her, make it clear as soon as possible so that you are not brozoned, you can finally propose her later on.
Tell her specifically that this friendship is not about bro-sis (give such signals or mention in sarcasm)
If she refuses when you propose, measure her emotions to identify if there is a slightest chance of acceptance, if not cry there and then and forget her.
Help her but also don't forget to safeguard your own interests or you will be used like a tissue.
Be happy with your life, people like happy people and not desperate or sad looking people.
Never assume that she likes you “that way” assumptions are meant to be proven wrong.
Oh! I forgot! This was for both guys and girls!
你要向她傳達(dá)你是什么樣的人以及你對生活的期望。
你要尊重她的目標(biāo)，尊重她的目的，以及她的生活方式和她的局限性。
如果她喜歡你，她最終會喜歡上你的。但如果她不喜歡你，不管你怎么做，她都不會喜歡你的。
如果你把自己偽裝成另一個人，而讓她因此喜歡上你，那我很遺憾，你最后肯定會哭的。
如果你喜歡她，你就要盡快跟她說清楚，這樣你以后才不會后悔，而且你最后還可以向她表白。
而且你一開始就要明確的告訴她，這段友誼不是兄弟姐妹的關(guān)系（你一定要發(fā)出這樣的信號或在開玩笑的時候提及）。
如果她拒絕了你的表白，你要思考一下她的態(tài)度，看看是否有一絲被接受的機(jī)會，如果沒有的話，那就大哭一場，然后擦干眼淚忘記她。
你在幫助她的同時也不要忘記維護(hù)你自己的利益，否則你就會像一張紙巾一樣被她利用了。
你要快樂的生活，人們都喜歡快樂的人，而不是絕望或悲傷的人。
永遠(yuǎn)不要假設(shè)她會喜歡你”那樣“做。
哦！我忘記了！這個建議是給男孩和女孩的！
Be a man of purpose
Have a journey that you're on that's greater than any one person being in your life. It's so attractive to say to a woman 'I'm trying to build a successful company that will help people do X. I want to look back in 5 years from now and say 'I made that'.
Be a man who keeps in shape
There are no excuses to being lazy. So do sport. The gym 3x a week or 10k running or crossfit or a tennis club. But something. It helps
Be secure with your looks
Whether 'ugly' or 'hot'. Don't make it about your looks. Make it about who you are.
Be secure
Don't be phased by other people and what they're doing - focus upon yourself
Be humorous
Making a woman laugh is a wonderful thing. So smile and be happy
Make fun of yourself
It's intoxicating
Make 'your line' the truth
'Look you seemed really nice, and probably get approached all the time - so this may seem ridiculous but yeh..I wanted to say hello...hi! (Laugh) my name's Deepak (go to shake their hand)
'Hey so I may get shot down. but you are extremely pretty and I'm HOPING you're a cool person as well. Erm hi, no fancy lines other than...hey name's Deepak - hello!'
Don't care so much
If you do 1/2/3/4/5/6 women will come. I promise
For more dating advice do follow me :)
你要做一個有目標(biāo)的人。
擁有一段精彩的經(jīng)歷，比你生命中出現(xiàn)的任何一個人都要重要。當(dāng)你對一個女人說：“我正在努力拼搏事業(yè)，我創(chuàng)立了一個成功的公司，我?guī)椭藗冏隽耸裁词裁词虑?。”這對一個女人來說是很有吸引力的。我想在5年以后回頭看看，說：“這件事是我做的”。
你要努力保持身材。
不要給懶惰找任何借口。運(yùn)動也是如此。每周去3次健身房，或者跑10公里，或者做一些體能訓(xùn)練，或者去網(wǎng)球俱樂部打網(wǎng)球。不管做什么運(yùn)動，他都是有助于你保持身材的。
你的長相可以保證你的安全，不管你長得”丑”還是長得”辣”，都別拿你的外表說事。不要被其他人和他們正在做的事情所影響——你只需要專注于你自己就好了。
要保持幽默。
因?yàn)樽屌碎_懷大笑是一件很棒的事情。所以盡情的去笑吧，要一直保持開心啊。
自嘲也是一件令人開心的事，因?yàn)樗鼤屇阏f的話看起來好像是真的。
“哇，你長得真好看，你長得這么好看，是不是有很多人想接近你？雖然這看起來可能很好笑，但是我還是想來跟你打個招呼，嗨~（這個時候要保持微笑）我叫迪帕克（現(xiàn)在去和她們握手）“。
“嘿，雖然我這樣跟你搭訕可能會失敗。但是我還是想跟你說，你真的長得非常漂亮，我希望你是個很酷的人。嗯，我沒有什么花哨的臺詞，除了……嘿，我叫迪帕克，你好！”
你不要管那么多。只要你做了以上幾點(diǎn)，女人就會來。我向你保證。
如果你想要了解更多關(guān)于約會的建議，請跟我上面步驟走。
When I was in grade 10, a girl tied a rakhi on my hand.
[For the context: Rakhi is a cotton bracelet tied by a girl or a woman on a man’s hand, signifying the brotherly love she has for him. It is an Indian thing, mostly]
Honestly, when she tied it on me, I was not aware of what that was. I learned it from a friend a while later.
I was okay with that.
But her approach was not quite sister-like. Sneaky glances, mild nudges, subtle hints of you know, romance.
One day, she proposed her love for me. I didn’t quite understand anything. I turned it down.
I was confused more than anything.
Later, after I graduated, I learned from a mutual friend that she used Rakhi as an opportunity to get closer to me and then propose her love for me.
I felt a bit used. Or insulted. “How low could a girl be,” I told myself.
During my second year of Uni, she got in touch with me through a mutual friend.
The first thing she told me was this: “Ben. Before you say anything,I am sorry. I was stupid. I am not talking to you to ask you if you love me. I just want to say that I love you.”
我十年級的時候，一個女孩在我手上綁了一個Rakhi。
【注釋：Rakhi是一個由女孩或女人系在男人手上的棉花手鏈，象征著她對這個男人如兄弟般的愛。這大概是印度的一種東西?！?br /> 說實(shí)話，她綁在我身上的時候，我并不知道那是什么。這還是我后來從一個朋友那里聽說的。
說實(shí)話，我對此并不介意。
但她的做法卻不太像是姐妹的做法。偷偷摸摸的眼神，有意無意的觸碰，以及你知道的那種微妙的暗示，還會玩一些浪漫。
有一天，她忽然跟我表白了。我一臉懵逼，所以我直接拒絕了。
我對此感到很困惑。
后來，我畢業(yè)了，我從一個我們共同的朋友那里得知，她本來是打算利用Rakhi這個機(jī)會接近我的，然后向我表白。
我覺得我自己好像是被利用了，或者說是被侮辱了?！耙粋€女孩子能有多卑微啊，”我對自己說。
在我大二的時候，她通過一個共同的朋友和我取得了聯(lián)系。
她告訴我的第一件事是：“本。在你開口之前，我先說聲對不起。我真是蠢啊，我跟你說話不是為了問你喜不喜歡我，我只想跟你說我愛你?！?/b>
I turned down her proposal.
Many years later while I was working in Madras, she got in touch with me again.
She was about to leave to the U.K for work.
She spoke about random things and finally about what happened years ago.
“I am not sorry for what happened last time. It was heartfelt. At the moment, I am dating my best friend from Uni. He is in the U.K now. ……” She spoke about her man for a while.
Then she concluded: “I still love you, Ben.”
Truth be told, nothing was wrong with her. I just never felt the bond with her.
I never wanted to call her name. Or smile like an idiot. Or just be stupid around her.
I had no love for her.
No matter who you are or what personality you sport, there will always be a woman or a girl who likes you.
She will see the flaws in you. The stupidity. The inaccuracies. Insecurities. And failings.
And she will cut right through the noise and scoop you off. She is the one.
You don’t really have to respond to her love. You don’t have to accept or refuse. She will love.
后來，我接受了她的道歉，我也很感謝她能主動聯(lián)系我。我跟她說沒關(guān)系，我還告訴她，我并沒有因此受到傷害，我只是感到很困惑而已。
但我還是拒絕了她的表白。
很多年以后，當(dāng)我在馬德拉斯工作的時候，她再次聯(lián)系了我。
她當(dāng)時正準(zhǔn)備去英國工作。
她跟我隨意聊了一些事情，最后談到了幾年前發(fā)生的事情。
“我對上次向你表白的事情并不感到抱歉，因?yàn)檫@是發(fā)自內(nèi)心的。目前，我正在和我大學(xué)時最好的朋友約會。他現(xiàn)在在英國……“她跟我聊了一會兒她的男人。
最后她得出結(jié)論：“我還愛著你，本?！?br /> 說實(shí)話，她這么做并沒有什么不妥。我只是從來沒感覺到我和她之間有擦出什么火花。
我從來都不想叫她的名字，或者像個白癡一樣的對她笑，或者是在她的身邊犯傻。
所以說，我并不愛她。
不管你是誰，不管你的性格如何，總會有一個女人或女孩喜歡你。
她會看到你的缺點(diǎn)，你的愚蠢，你的不安全感以及你的失敗。
但她還是會穿過人群中嘈雜聲，找到你，并表示你就是她的真命天子。
你不需要回應(yīng)她的愛，你也不必接受或拒絕她的愛。她還是會喜歡你。
Girls are like shadow. If you get closer they will go away from you. If you go away from them they follow you. Like birds they will fly away from the smalest step you take towards them. But if u stay still and dont mind them. They will be flying all over you. Not saying dont do anything. I am saying dont try to hard.
What attracts the girls most is confidence. Not fake confidence. I mean real core confidence.
So if you want to attract them. Go to gym 3-4 times a week. Eat well. Take good care of yourself and your body. Help others. Build your core confidence. Be strong. Read books. Alot of books. And ignore the girls. If they talk to you be friendly with them but dont try anything fast. Tease them amd feel good about yourself. Push them away alittle. Dont say yes all the time. Say you are busy. And if you want to build confidence you will be busy anyway. Build your dream. Your business your life for yourself. Girls will come.
Nothing attacts people more then a person who knows where he is going. Confidence and beliv in yourself. And girls always want what they cant have.
Just do what i told you 6 months and thank me afterwards
女孩就像一個影子。如果你靠近他們，他們就會離你遠(yuǎn)遠(yuǎn)的。如果你離開他們，他們就會跟著你。就像鳥兒一樣，如果你向它們邁進(jìn)一步，它們就會立馬飛走。但如果你呆著不動，不去騷擾他們，他們就會飛到你的身上。我的意思并不是說追女孩子就是什么都不要做，我的意思是，追女孩子的時候不要太用力。
因?yàn)樽钗⒆拥钠焚|(zhì)就是自信。但這并不是指假裝的自信，而是發(fā)自內(nèi)心的認(rèn)可自己的自信。
所以如果你想吸引她們。那你就每周去3到4次健身房，好好吃飯，照顧好自己和自己的身體。幫助別人。建立你自己的核心自信，堅(jiān)強(qiáng)點(diǎn)，多看看書，多讀點(diǎn)好書。別太把那些女孩當(dāng)回事，如果她們跟你說話的話，那你就友好地跟她們相處，但不要急于求成，不要去挑逗她們，也不要自我感覺良好。要適當(dāng)?shù)耐崎_她們一點(diǎn)，不要總是對她們說“好”，你要說你很忙。如果你努力建立自信的話，那么你肯定會很忙的。如果你好好拼搏你的夢想，拼搏你的事業(yè)，拼搏你的生活，那女孩自然而然就會來的。
沒有什么比一個知道自己要去哪里的人更吸引人的了。要保持自信，要相信自己。因?yàn)榕⒆涌偸窍胍齻兊貌坏降臇|西。
如果你按照我說的方法去做六個月，六個月后你肯定會感謝我的。
I was talking to a guy from a long time. We started talking through Quora. He too is a CA Finalist. We had talked on calls as well and we were really good friends. He is one year elder to me. He had plans to visit Pune for some family function and we decided to meet.
I was late because of traffic. He was standing there, waiting. He had taken efforts for his outfit. He looked at me and smiled. Gorgeous smile!
“Hi. You are looking cute. You look more beautiful in reality”, he said.
“Thank you”, I replied with a smile.
I apologized for coming late.
He replied with a smile saying,
“It's okay.”
He gave me a book as a gift. He knew I like to read. He had got it wrapped. Once I’d told him that it's been a long time since I've unwrapped a gift. He remembered that little detail. How sweet!
We went to a cafe. Instead of sitting in front of me, he sat beside me. We were quite comfortable with each other. Even though we talked about random things, it was very mesmerizing. He joked about himself and made me laugh till my stomach started aching. He was confident. He told me his childhood memories. While I was having my food, I caught him staring at me with A LOT of admiration. I blushed!
He kept his hand on mine and I could feel butterflies in my tummy.
I offered to pay the bill but he politely refused and said he wants to. I decided to pay for the next time, as we had plans to meet the next day also.
我在和一個老朋友通過 quora 聊天，他也是一名加州決賽的選手。我們是非常好的朋友，經(jīng)常通過電話交流，他比我大一歲。他計(jì)劃去浦那參加一些家庭活動，于是我們決定趁此機(jī)會見一面。
但我因?yàn)槎萝囘t到了，他就站在那兒等著我。他在他自己的穿著上費(fèi)了不少功夫，當(dāng)他看見我的時候笑了，是非常燦爛的笑容！
”你好，你看起來真可愛，你比照片里還要好看?！?br /> ”謝謝你“，我笑著回復(fù)他。
我為遲到向他道歉。
他卻笑著回答我說：
”沒關(guān)系。“
他送給我一本書作為禮物，因?yàn)樗牢蚁矚g讀書。有一次我告訴他，我已經(jīng)很久沒有拆過禮物了，所以他還特地把這本書包了起來。他居然記得這么小的細(xì)節(jié)，這實(shí)在是太甜了。
我們?nèi)チ艘患铱Х瑞^，他坐在我旁邊，而不是坐在我的對面。我們在一起相處的時候很舒服，盡管我們聊得都是一些瑣事的事情，但我們卻聊得特別投入，這些瑣事都變得很吸引人。他的自嘲讓我笑得肚子都疼了。他是一個很有自信的人，他還跟我說了他的童年。當(dāng)我吃東西的時候，我發(fā)現(xiàn)他用愛慕的目光盯著我，我的臉一下子就紅了！
當(dāng)他的手放到我的手上時，我緊張的心臟都要跳出來了。
當(dāng)我主動的提出要付帳的時候，他禮貌地拒絕了，說他想自己付。所以我決定支付下一次的費(fèi)用，因?yàn)槲覀円灿?jì)劃第二天見面。
It was too cold that day. He offered me his jacket and I shamelessly took it because I cannot survive cold. I was shivering. His jacket felt good. It had his aroma, a beautiful aroma.
I couldn't look into his beautiful eyes for more than 10 seconds. I was a little nervous for a reason only God knows about. When I was talking about something, he kept on staring at me as if I was some monument. I blushed scarlet.
I wanted to spend more time but he insisted me to go home as it was late. I told him that I can stay for half an hour more. But he refused saying it's too cold. He even insisted to come along and that he'll come back by cab. But I declined.
We hugged. I wanted to stay in those arms forever but he broke it in 30 seconds. I kept looking at him. He kept looking at me. I so wanted to kiss him. He too wanted to kiss me. He murmured to himself, “not here, not now.”
然后我們決定去散一會步，我們還繼續(xù)聊著天，兩個人都笑得很開心。我挽著他的胳膊，我們繼續(xù)往前走，他說他喜歡我挽著他的樣子。我們在一起的狀態(tài)真的是太舒適了。
我記得那天很冷。他把夾克遞給我，而我厚顏無恥地收下了，因?yàn)槲液芘吕?，我在不停的顫抖。他的夾克穿著很舒服，因?yàn)閵A克上沾了他的香味，這是一種美妙的香味。
因?yàn)槲耶?dāng)時有點(diǎn)緊張，所以我無法直視他美麗的眼睛超過十秒鐘，我為什么會這么緊張，只有上帝知道原因了。當(dāng)我在說某件事情的時候，他一直盯著我看，就好像我是一個什么珍貴的物品一樣。我的臉當(dāng)時刷的一下就紅了。
我當(dāng)時還想多花點(diǎn)時間跟他繼續(xù)待在一起，但他堅(jiān)持要我早點(diǎn)回家，因?yàn)楫?dāng)時已經(jīng)很晚了。我告訴他，其實(shí)我還可以再多待半個小時，但他拒絕了，說是因?yàn)樘鞖馓淞?。最后，我只能回家了，他還堅(jiān)持要送我回家，說他會坐出租車回來，但是我拒絕了。
我們最后擁抱在了一起，我真想永遠(yuǎn)呆在他的懷里，但他抱了我30秒之后就把我放開了。我一直看著他，他也一直看著我，我真想親吻他，而他也想親吻我。他喃喃自語道：“現(xiàn)在不能親，不能在這里親?！?/b>
After going home when I texted him that why didn't he kiss me, he said he didn't want anyone to witness our moment (even though there was no one but the risk was still there) and that it was the first time we had met.
We didn't meet the next day as he had to leave because of some emergency and then we realised that we were so indulged into each other that we had forgotten to click pictures.
Even though we never called it a date and never wanted it to be a date, it actually became one.
How can you get a girl to like you?
Be yourself.
Respect her comfort.
Remember the little details.
Make her laugh.
Be honest. Give genuine compliments.
Make her feel safe.
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他撫摸著我的頭發(fā)，親吻著我的前額，并囑咐我一到家就給他發(fā)短信。
回到家后，我發(fā)短信問他當(dāng)時為什么不親我，他說他不想讓任何人看到我們親吻的畫面（雖然當(dāng)時沒有人，但仍然存在這種風(fēng)險(xiǎn)），而且那是我們第一次見面。
我們第二天并沒有見面，因?yàn)樗f，有一些緊急情況，所以他要馬上離開。我們這時候才忽然意識到，我們當(dāng)時太沉迷于對方了，以至于忘記了拍照。
盡管我們從來沒把它叫做約會，也不希望它成為約會，但它確實(shí)成為了約會。
所以你到底該怎么做才能讓一個女孩喜歡你呢？
答案就是做你自己。
尊重她的選擇。
記住一些小細(xì)節(jié)。
還要逗她開心。
要誠實(shí)，要給予她最真誠的贊美。
讓她有安全感。
如果你想追女孩子，你一定要讀這篇文章！
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