在別人給我提供建議后我該說些什么好呢？

Thathagath Kapur, Universal Spiritual Scientist. (2011-present)
It depends, is it free advice or advice, i paid for?
Coming from whom, is that person has any hidden agenda?
Is it a general thought?

這要看情況，看建議是免費(fèi)的還是我花錢買的？
這個(gè)主意誰給的，那個(gè)人有什么背景嗎？
此主意是隨便就可以想到的嗎？

I believe, God uses other people mouths, sometimes to tell us what to do? But I never look for others approval.
I have sometimes shrugged off, some advices given to me, but when I came home and meditated on them and if they had brought me some good transformation, I accept those advices.

我認(rèn)為，有時(shí)候上帝會通過別人的嘴告訴我們該怎么做？但我從不尋求別人的認(rèn)可。
我有時(shí)會對別人給我的一些建議不屑一顧，但當(dāng)我回到家里細(xì)想這些建議后，如果它們給我?guī)砹艘恍┖玫霓D(zhuǎn)變，我就會接受這些建議。

I may react differently, when somebody give advice which is unasked for, but once its reached my mind, it would be dissected thoroughly, and later after a great thought, I sometimes go and give that person feedback, with proper reasoning, and gratitude.
I go deeper on that advice, if I have gone already further on The data they are advicing me on, I give them my analysis, which I have already done on the subject, most of the time people do not like that, but I believe, I added to the thought, and they would reach from that further, if they find that addition proper to the advice.

當(dāng)有人主動給我一些建議時(shí)候，我可能會有不同的反應(yīng)，但一旦它進(jìn)入我的腦海，它就會被徹底剖析，后來經(jīng)過一個(gè)慎重思考后，我也許會去給那個(gè)人反饋，并帶著適當(dāng)?shù)耐评砗透屑ぶ椤?br /> 如果我已經(jīng)對他們的建議做過更深入的數(shù)據(jù)論證和研究，我會給他們看我的分析，并告訴他們我已經(jīng)在這個(gè)問題上論證過，大多數(shù)時(shí)候人們不喜歡這樣，但是我相信，我對此作了補(bǔ)充，如果他們覺得這種補(bǔ)充對該建議來說是合適的，他們也會從中得到更多。

I did lots of research on Dogs, while travelling in India, treated them, fed them, I know things, that few vets knows, when I discuss, some people tell me something and I tell them somethings you I meet lots of dog haters, what to worry about them, if you respect them, I can go to a crazy dog, without getyi g bitten.
I often hear, story away fro dogs they might bite you?
You get rabies?
I do not take those advices.

我做了很多關(guān)于狗的研究，在印度旅行的時(shí)候，給它們治療，喂養(yǎng)它們，我知道一些獸醫(yī)都很少知道的事情，當(dāng)我討論的時(shí)候，一些人告訴我一些事情，我也告訴他們另外一些事情，我遇到很多討厭狗的人，他們會擔(dān)心什么呢，其實(shí)你尊重它們就好，我甚至可以去一只瘋狗面前，同樣不會被咬。
我經(jīng)常聽到，關(guān)于狗可能會咬你的故事？
被咬可能會得狂犬病呢？我不接受那些建議的。

Sometimes people force advice on me, while, I am advicibg, adviciing business is difficult, both giving and taking.
I think Doctor, does not only have to learn about Medicine, its also how you give advice, thats must be the big part of the practice, I hope they teach that in medical college, but I do not see that side of Education is shown in movies.

有時(shí)人們會強(qiáng)迫我提建議，要知道我本身是個(gè)咨詢師，咨詢業(yè)務(wù)很難，既給予建議也需要接受一些建議。
我認(rèn)為醫(yī)生，不僅要學(xué)習(xí)醫(yī)學(xué)，還需要了解如何給出建議，這一定是實(shí)踐的重要部分，我希望在醫(yī)學(xué)院可以教授這一點(diǎn)，但在目前教育體系中我看不到有相關(guān)課程。
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Abhishek Shastri, Skeptic. Prefers logic over emotions.
I have been smoking cigarettes for some time now, with half year hiatuses every now and then. If I had a rupee for every time someone told me cigarettes will kill me, well, I could probably buy a pack of Marlboro Reds.
How is this relevant? Most of the people who have advised me over this have been complete strangers. My point being, giving life advices needs so little effort and thought, people don't even hesitate to give it to complete strangers, on a whim.

?我已經(jīng)學(xué)會抽煙，半年來時(shí)不時(shí)地需要抽煙。如果每次我抽煙是有個(gè)人告訴我香煙會害死我，我可能會買一包萬寶路還有紅葡萄酒。
這有什么關(guān)系？大多數(shù)為我提供建議的人都是陌生人。我的觀點(diǎn)是，給他人忠告不需要太多的努力和思考，人們甚至?xí)敛华q豫地把它送給完全陌生的人，甚至僅僅一時(shí)興起而已。

I look at it in one of two ways.

這個(gè)問題得從兩個(gè)方面來看。

One : You're giving me advice because you, someone close to you, or someone you've heard about suffered a loss or other consequence. I fail to see how it is relevant to me. What went wrong for them doesn't necessarily have to go wrong for me.

第一：你給我建議是因?yàn)槟?，你身邊的人，或者你聽說過有人遭受了損失或其他后果。我不明白這和我有什么關(guān)系。他們出了問題，但不一定我身上也會出問題。

Two : You have too much free time and/or nothing better to do. Well, what you may advise me on may benefit me or may be relevant to me, but I'd still rather take your advise with a grain of salt, if I'm not completely ignoring it.
Either case, if what they are saying is something new that I don't know about or have never thought of, I'll listen to them. If I think it'll work for me, I'll act on it. Though, if their advise is something which is too obvious, or something I've thought of beforehand and rejected; I'd rather make my own mistakes, thank you.

第二：你有太多的空閑時(shí)間或沒有其他更好的事情可做。好吧，你給我的建議也許對我有好處，也可能與我有關(guān)，但即使我沒有完全忽視你的建議，我還是寧愿持保留態(tài)度。
不過，如果他們說的是我不知道或從未想過的新東西，我都會聽他們的。如果我認(rèn)為這對我有用，我會采取行動的。不過，如果他們的建議太膚淺了，或者是我事先想到并拒絕過的，那我寧愿自己犯錯(cuò)誤，謝謝。

Luce Mayhem, Artist, Athiest, Activist, Advocate & Asshat (2001-present)
If I get good advice I will thank the giver for it when I know it’s good
I love it when someone rearranges my perception of a problem. Unpacking it on my own and finding a solution usually comes pretty easily to me, but there are the odd conundrums that I just can’t get my head around alone. I often ask for advice.

如果我得到了有用的時(shí)建議的時(shí)候，我會表達(dá)感謝。
我喜歡有人一起探討我對問題的看法。我自己把問題看透，然后找到一個(gè)解決方案通常是相當(dāng)容易的，但也有一些奇怪的難題，導(dǎo)致我不能獨(dú)自處理它。所以需要經(jīng)常征求意見。

I also get perspective and advice from a few sources, whether I’ve asked for it or not but I do try to consider it even if I don’t follow it.

我也會從其他渠道得到一些觀點(diǎn)和建議，不管我是否主動要求的，即使我聽不進(jìn)去，但我也會考慮的。

If someone unintentionally gives me rubbish advice I’ll be less inclined to ask them for advice in future, but I won’t hold it against them especially if it’s advice I asked for directly.

如果有人給了我一些毫無意義的建議，我以后就不會再向他們征求意見了，但我不會反對他們，尤其是如果這是我主動要求的建議。

Robin Thomas, counselor cum psychotherapist
It is better to listen than to merely hear out someone ,you never know when a bolt of lightening in the form of realisation could change and transform your life as well as others ,or what inspiration may fill your spirit .Look at what people say as a suggestion ,not advice ,sermon , or an order .Don,t argue,discuss,debate ,or reject what someone says ,just listen ,nod your head ,put it away for future ref .You know whenever there is a talk ,seminar ,or workshop ,we light a lamp ,which has a wick,and oil filled in .The lamp is lit and just stands in a corner and burns out .But there is great meaning in this lighting ,which is from vedic times .The wick represents ego,the flame represents arrogance ,and the oil represents ignorance. So when the wick ,ego burns out and becomes black ,the flame arrogance goes off ,but the important thing is the ignorance ,oil which feeds the ego is empty.And once ignorance is gone ,you wake up to the reality ,the truth,humble down and listen to the talk ,with renewed inspiration ,. The ego and arrogance are big obstacles in our life ,they perpetuate our ignorance ,and delusion that we know it all . Listen ,ignore what is not relevant,but gratefully take in what makes a difference . Whether it comes from a roadside vendors ,a kid,autodriver,gurus and speakers ,CEOs ,big guys small guys all guys ,men and women ,listen ,you never know what may evolve from a few words ,and how you will emerge .

聽明白別人說的意思是很有必要的，你永遠(yuǎn)不知道什么時(shí)候會有個(gè)主意能改變你和其他人的生活，也不知道靈感什么時(shí)候出現(xiàn)。把人們說的看作是一種建議，而不是說教或命令。不要爭論、討論、辯論，或者拒絕別人說的話，只要聽，點(diǎn)頭，把它記起來就好，以備將來參考。你知道的，無論什么時(shí)候的演講或研討會，就如同我們都會點(diǎn)亮一盞燈，燈上有燈芯，里面裝滿了油。燈亮了，就可以照亮一個(gè)角落。這種照明有著非常重要的意義，它來自吠陀時(shí)代，燈芯代表自我，火焰代表傲慢，油代表無知。所以當(dāng)小我的燈芯燒壞變黑時(shí)，傲慢的火焰就會熄滅，但重要的是無知，滋養(yǎng)自我的油是空的。還有一旦無知消失了，你就會在現(xiàn)實(shí)中醒悟過來從而明白真相，一旦謙卑點(diǎn)，注意聆聽，就能獲得新的靈感。自大和傲慢是我們生活中的最大障礙，它們使我們的無知和自以為是的錯(cuò)覺長期存在。因此要忽略那些無關(guān)緊要的事情，帶感激的心態(tài)地接受那些不同的聲音。至于這些聲音是否來自路邊的小販，小孩，汽車司機(jī)還是大師級演講者，CEO，大人物，小人物等所有的男人和女人都不重要，因?yàn)槟阌肋h(yuǎn)不知道從他們說的話中可以得到什么，以及你將如何憑此脫穎而出。

Khawaja Saud Masud, In the school of life, I share from personal experience
To yourself say “I must help others with thoughtful and sound advice one day” so you pay it forward. Also you would need to build a generous and growth mindset to be able to give non generic and well-targeted guidance.

自我暗示:“總有一天，我要用深思熟慮和合理的建議來幫助別人”，這樣能不斷強(qiáng)化信念。此外，你還需要建立一種慷慨和積極上進(jìn)的心態(tài)，以便能夠給予不一般的、有針對性的指導(dǎo)。

To the advisor other than thank you, always share how their advice helped you directly and indirectly. Follow up and feedback post someone’s help shows how much you really valued their time and opinion. Sometimes it’s just as powerful as a genuine thank you.

對于導(dǎo)師，除了說“謝謝你”，還要經(jīng)常直接或間接地要他們分享對你有幫助的建議。及時(shí)給別人的幫助送去反饋信息表明你是多么重視他們的時(shí)間和意見。有時(shí)候這比一句真誠的謝謝更好。

If just hearing the advice did some good for you well before it’s application, ask your advisor if you may share this advice with others and give your reference. This also shows your gratitude and the impact their advice has had on you. You never know you may inspire the advisor to do further good in the world based on your kind and timely feedback.

如果在僅僅聽到這些建議時(shí)就覺得對你有幫助的話，問問你的導(dǎo)師你是否可以和其他人分享這些建議并給出你的參考意見。這也表達(dá)了你的感激之情以及他們的建議對你的影響。你永遠(yuǎn)不會知道，你的善意和及時(shí)的反饋可能會激勵(lì)導(dǎo)師在這個(gè)世界上做更多的好事。